Is Being “Busy” Keeping You From Your Ultra-running Goals?

This morning I woke, stretched my limbs, and meandered into the kitchen for an aromatic cup of java. Coffee in hand, I sit down at my desk and begin to work up my to-do list for the day. I know I need to get groceries, finish a couple of high priority work projects and put away laundry. I also want to clean and organize my closet, draft a blog post, journal, and walk the dog. In between tasks, I will need to take care of those daily needs such as personal hygiene and cleaning up after meals. Oh, and by the way, I hope to have time for family board games, finishing the mystery novel that has me hooked, and spending quality time with my hubby.

Looks like it will be another busy day. The question hovers in the air, when and where will I fit in my training run for my up-coming Zion 100K?

Busy, busy, busy. This is the first answer most people give when asked, “How are you?” or “How have you been?” And if you are like me and happen to have the rare occasion where you aren’t busy, a feeling of guilt descends and you think, “What am I forgetting? Where am I failing?”

I believe busyness has become an addiction in today’s world. It often feels like a compulsion or expectation that I will busy all day and if I am not busy then I am not doing it right.

Here is the problem with busy. Busy is a deceptive little fellow, dancing around keeping us occupied and unable to focus on our real goals. It fills our day, feeds our need to cross off to-do’s, and leads us to believe we are living a full life. The fallacy lurking in Busyness’s wake is the assumption that busy = getting after and accomplishing our goals.

The truth is that being busy is actually harming us and keeping us from living the fullest life we can live. It is in the moments of calm and reflection that we can hear the voice in our mind clarifying what is important, defining the needs of our hearts and minds, and sparking creative thought. So what does this have to do with meeting our ultra-running goals?

  1. Busyness interferes with training schedules
    1. Filling up the day with to-do’s puts the priority on the minutiae and not on training which is critical to reach your ultrarunning goals. Look at your schedule and determine what can be done later or not at all so training can be a priority.
  2. Busyness gives us an excuse for missing workouts, etc.
    1. When you make various to-do’s the priority, it becomes easy to justify missing a workout. But chances are, there are items on your to-do list that can wait for another day, training cannot if you want to be consistent. And consistency is critical for meeting ultrarunning goals.
  3. Busyness is the crypotnite of motivation and commitment
    1. When our busy schedules aren’t focused on meeting our priority goals, those to-do’s act like crytopnite for our motivation. We waste energy on the unimportant and save none for the important – like training to meet ultrarunning goals.
  4. Busyness is the seed bed of self-doubt
    1. Staying busy “feels” good but is deceptive and before long, self-doubt begins to creep in when you fail to meet your goals time and again.

So now that you understand why “being busy” does not serve your life, are you ready to kick busyness to the curb? Here are some strategies to help take the first steps in divorcing yourself from busyness.

  1. Clearly articulate your ultra-running goals
    1. It is important to know what you want to accomplish. If you have an A-Race and a time goal, your priorities will be different than if your goal is to enjoy ultrarunning adventures each weekend.
  2. Post your goals prominently
    1. Write down your goals in your training log, on a post-it note next to your computer or somewhere else you will see it regularly. In the day-to-day whirlwind of life, it helps to be reminded of what is important.
  3. Start your to-do list with those activities that help you reach your goal
    1. Maybe this means running before anything else or maybe it is scheduling running time on your calendar. The key is making your training a high priority and letting everything else that is less important slide.
  4. Forgive yourself if your day goes amiss
    1. Be prepared to forgive yourself if a higher priority keeps you from your training. A family emergency or last minute project with a deadline may require you put training on hold for a day. Don’t let yourself fall into a shame spiral if this happens.
  5. Start each new day as a fresh beginning
    1. Related to #4, if you do fall off track, each day is a chance to start fresh. Don’t use one missed workout as an excuse to start skipping them all.

Ultrarunning is a rewarding sport. It has helped me and so many others deal with the demons of depression. Having ultrarunning goals helps keep the motivation and excitement fresh, but to reach those goals, it takes daily commitment. Letting go of “busy” and committing to “focus” will provide the necessary foundation for running success.

The journey continues…

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“Well, at least my uterus didn’t fall out!” – Finding Silverlinings When a Race Goes Bad

Red, orange, and yellow dance across the horizon. I cup my hands and huff into them. My arms look scaly, covered with with a littering of goosebumps. I turn to the sunrise and dream of the warmth I will soon feel.

“Five more minutes runners. Start making your way to the corral.” Noah announces. The Coldwater Rumble 20 mile race is about to begin.

No one moves. No one wants to leave the warmth of the space heaters scattered around the start/finish area.

“Don’t be shy. Step on up.” He jests, sounding vaguely like a carnie calling us to win the elusive giant stuffed animal at the county fair.

Slowly we shuffle over and jockey for position. Some, like me, hover at the back. Others jostle to the front. The latter will fly like gazelles while I look closer to a plodding turtle.

Three, two, one and go! We are off, the first steps taken on the next great adventure. Adventures take on many shapes and sizes. Today’s adventure wanders through the beautiful Estella Mountain Regional Park. In the shadows of the Gila Range, the trails traverse the cholla and saguaro desert. Creosote scents the air and the ocotillo bloom in the distance adding a touch of crimson to the greens and browns that paint this landscape. A truly beautiful representation of the environment that sits on the doorstep of the Phoenix Metropolis.

My relationship with this race is longer than most I enter. This will be my third year running and I hope for a personal record (PR). My goal of sub-4 hours is in my mind as I depress the button on my watch and take my first steps.

The first mile of this race presents the only significant climb. I know this and am prepared to hike, aware that my body needs to warm up before I start to push.

“Easy does it” I remind myself. I am wary of the ego that sits like a devil on my shoulder, taunting me to charge ahead. Humility rests on the other shoulder, quieter but wiser, and guides me to exercise restraint. Even with a helping hand however, my legs feel leaden. I slog up the hill hopeful this is not an omen.

Unfortunately, omen it is indeed. I am plagued with all manner of maladies. Food sits heavy in my queasy stomach, so I choose not to eat or drink much as all. Who said I need energy to run far? My shoulders and neck ache and my head feels like it will roll right off. Who said I need a head to keep my legs moving? Even my lungs burn. But no one told me I need to breath when I run.

When I finally crossed the finish line, 15 minutes and 38 seconds slower than my goal, I find my friends. I look into their inquiring eyes and say, “Well at least my uterus didn’t fall out!” hearkening back to a time when this myth was used to keep women from running long distances. The saving grace of a race gone sideways.

I blogged a while back about “When Good Runs Go South“. Unfortunately, those strategies did not rescue this race. So I have to find strategies that help me celebrate what I did accomplish lest I fall into a spiral of disappointment and self-deprecation.

How to Embrace the Good When all Seems Bad:

  • Find Your Gratitude – If you look, you will always find at least something positive. Gratitude, no matter how big or small, helps refocus on the positive.
    • “I am grateful that I have strong legs and lungs that carried me 20 miles today.”
  • What Goes Down Must Come Up – Every runner will have bad runs. Every runner will have good runs. Remember this….not every run (or race) can be your best performance.
    • “In order to have a good run another day, I must accept that today’s run was not-so-good.”
  • Laugh it Off – Self-deprecation can be destructive or it can be used as humor. Choose to use it wisely and add some levity to the situation.
    • “It could have gone worse, I could have lost my uterus out in the desert!”
  • Get Back on the Horse – Getting back out for a run the next day (unless you are injured of course) will help rebuild confidence and keep you in the groove.
    • “If only my race could have been as good as today’s run. Glad I got back out here to prove to myself that one bad run doesn’t spell doom for them all.”
  • Learn Your Lessons – Every bad run can teach us something about how to run better next time. Don’t waste an opportunity to use today’s bad run to learn a lesson or two.
    • “I now know that drinking coffee, even 4 hours before my race, will upset my stomach.”

All bad experiences can be morphed to provide benefit and value in our lives if we make the conscious effort. Staying mindful of these benefits requires effort, but the effort will have a far greater return on investment. Next time you have a bad run, or any bad life experience, seek these benefits rather than getting sucked into the vortex of shame and despair.

The journey continues……

Running Across the Years and the Lessons My Kids Learn from Running

Christmas morning, three weeks ago, I rub the sleep from my eyes as I wake to squealing children. Smells of brewing coffee waft into the bedroom and spur me into action. My boys vibrate as they anticipate the presents they are about to open.

Kenny and I find our places, steaming coffee in hand and wrapped in a soft and toasty blanket. Wrapping paper flies and excitement echoes off the walls. A ding sounds through the commotion and I reach for my phone. My own excitement bubbles over as I read a text informing me I won the raffle for an entry into Across the Years.

For the uninitiated, Across the Years, better known as ATY, is a multi-day timed running event. Runners choose 24, 48, or 72 hours or 6 days. During the chosen time frame, they run, walk, or hobble, as much as desired, along a short course. Runners sleep when needed, take care of bodily functions when needed. Everyone runs the same set loop. This particular event crosses from December 28th – Jan 3rd, hence “Across the Years”, and is a 1.0498 mile loop. The winner traverses the most miles within that time frame and though they are not usually the fastest runners, they are the most determined.

I find ATY to be the most spectacular way to round out the year and was thrilled to be a participant again. Even my boys enjoy the atmosphere, especially when they cheer for the runners or hand out smoothies or dance at the start/finish line to bring extra joy. My favorite part of running timed events is the camaraderie experienced with others that you circle past or with lap after lap.

I chose to run Friday December 28th, then volunteer Dec 30th and 31st. Friday dawned with blue skies and perfect temps. Crisp air and sunny skies make for perfect running weather. Kenny signed up for the race as well and we started together.

The race unfolded as they tend to do….completely unexpectedly. Early on, I had some bathroom issues. Fortunately, Aravaipa running hung funny signs in each port-o-potty so to make the plague a little less frustrating, I chose a different stall each time to increase my laughter quotient. It worked and when I recovered, the smile on my face was quite large.

I didn’t have any plans or particular goals for the day. I am getting myself into my training for Zion 100K in April so I didn’t want to run all-out and risk injury at the outset of my training. We discussed staying all night, but since neither of us had planned to run a 24 hour event and neither of us was prepared for 75 – 100 miles, the call of the hot tub at home proved too tempting.

Nine hours after starting, I took my final steps , hit 40 miles and called it a day. It was my second longest run ever, second only to Antelope Canyon 50 miler. I could have gone a lot farther and that was the best way to end the day. I was fresh, ready for more, and motivated to leap into my Zion training.

My favorite part of the day was meeting Catra Corbett and Truman. My dearest husband, in his infinite wisdom and perpetual love, told her that I was too scared to meet her. I was mortified! But ultimately I did talk with her and got scratched Truman’s chin. It was worth every moment of embarrassment I felt.

We came back and hung around for several more days, volunteering and cheering. Quinlan performed “Orange Justice” and “The Hype” – dance moves that earned him notoriety and a shout out by Jubilee, the race director. He felt famous! Keegan was the master of the cowbell and on more than one occasion put an extra spring in the steps of the runners.

I love runners. I love being around runners and feeling the drive and desire to push myself, to compete against others and myself. I never feel better about life and about who I am then when I am running. Running truly makes me the best version of myself.

Sharing my passion with my husband and children and building family memories at running events has become a tradition. Runners are a wealth of life lessons packaged in all shapes and sizes. While our children may never be runners themselves, they are learning valuable life lessons including:

  • Age is Irrelevant – You are never too old to start, never too old to continue, simply never too old. Age is even an advantage, especially at timed events, because with age comes the ability to keep going when the going gets tough.
  • Fitness is a Personal Journey – Running as a community is a powerful place to overcome the comparison trap. In a race of 100 or 10,000, there is only one winner and chances are it isn’t you. This fact teaches us to compete with ourselves and not those around us.
  • Play is Powerful – I often take life too seriously and I am not alone. Running, especially ultra running, teaches us that play is important and laughter makes the miles fly. Plus, when my kids see Ed the Jester and his train whistle after 5 days of running, they know that even adults can have fun!
  • Mind over Matter is Real – I can explain to my children all day that if they put their mind to it they can do anything, but seeing an individual still moving after 72 hours or longer makes that statement come to life.
  • Relentless Forward Progress is Critical – It isn’t how fast we go that gets us to our goals, but rather the ability to keep putting one foot in front of the other. The winners of ATY weren’t running circles around everyone else, but they kept moving one step at a time.

I look forward to all that this year will bring and the future lessons my kids and I will learn. For now, the journey continues…..

Why New Years Resolutions Are Pointless and What You Should Do Instead

It has been several weeks since I have written.  My time and energy to write are minimal at best.  I came home and gave so much time and energy to my family, friends, and work trying to make up for being gone all summer.

But by giving so much to others, I forgot the importance of self-love.  My stress levels are through the roof and my weight is creeping up. Both are signs that Emily is not being cared for like she needs.

With these last 4 months so extremely difficult, I thought 2018 was a horrible year. When New Years hit, I was happy to wave goodbye and watch 2018 disappear into my rear view window. I chose, however, to take an hour to reflect on what did go well in 2018.

Surprisingly, once I looked for the good, I saw many shining stars. I recalled that at the beginning of 2018, I decided to forgo resolutions and instead set focuses for myself.  Lo and behold, all of my year’s accomplishments hit the mark and those focuses proved far more valuable than resolutions.  

Goal setting is important in life when done effectively.  Measurable goals that are achievable can be life-changing.  And breaking big goals into smaller bite-sized pieces is a proven way to tackle big goals.   

The problem isn’t with goals; it is with resolutions because they are unattainable unforgiving goals.  We promise to never drink again.  We promise that chocolate will never pass our lips. We promise to be patient with our children always. 

Resolutions forget we are human.  This is their ultimate flaw.

By setting focuses instead of resolutions, we establish room for error while giving our energy to the positive changes we want to see happen.   From there, we can set specific goals that are smaller and good milestones to help us as we seek to improve those focuses.  Further, by setting focuses, we can establish early in the year our priorities.  When other activities or priorities come our way, we have a foundation settle on and use to help determine if those new priorities are worthy of our time and energy.  

Steps for Setting Focuses

Step 1.   Build a Foundation of Successes – Begin by taking stock of what you accomplished over the last year. Jot down the accomplishments, proud moments, or areas of joy and set aside any negative thoughts that arise. This step is important because it establishes a tone of self-love and gratitude necessary for effective development.

Step 2. Revive the Negative Thoughts – After establishing all the good behind you, resurrect those thoughts that came along of areas you wish you did better or that disappointed you. At this point, because you established a foundation of successes, you can examine the negative thoughts with an analytical mind rather than using them as a whip for self-deprecation.

Step 3. Examine Reality and Prune the Excess – Once resurrected, the list must be sorted and culled. How often is it possible to address every area we wish we could improve upon? Examining the areas you wish to improve through the lens of true desire is critical for future success.

Step 4. Categorize What is Remaining – Of the items that remain, put them into general categories – for example, Running and Fitness or Marriage or Work Related.

Step 5. Spell out the General Categories – Write a sentence or two about that general category and how you want to improve it. This is now your focus for the year.

Example for Setting Focuses

Step 1. Last year was great because I ran several ultras, accomplished some major projects at work, and my marriage and family are thriving.

Step 2. I wish I did a better job with cross training and had done yoga every week. I also wish I would have blogged more often and written every day.

Step. 3. Given the amount of time I have and the amount of running I love to do, I don’t want to give up anything to make time for yoga so that will be culled.

Step 4. The areas I want to improve can be categorized into Running/Fitness, Family/Marriage, and Writing

Step 5. For Writing in 2019, I want to develop a consistent writing habit to help move me closer to writing a book and further developing my blog.

As you work through your own focuses, you will see that developing focuses versus resolutions creates a positive foundation for better success throughout the year. Rather than establishing unrealistic, all-or-nothing resolutions that are destined to fail the moment real life hits, focuses will give you the ability to remember what is important throughout the year.

Share below what some of your focuses are the for year. Putting them out there gives them life and value and keeps you accountable.

The journey continues…….

5 Ways to Embrace Gratitude This Holiday Season

We have cycled around to another holiday season.  Thanksgiving is upon us and we are pausing to take stock in our blessings.  An “Attitude of Gratitude” is the motto of the day.

Our world is so focused on the negative and it is easy to get caught up in that spiral.  If we wait for the news to change or our neighbors to change or the state of society to change, we will be waiting for a long time.  We each have a responsibility to make the changes that we want to see in the world.  It takes practice to see our own world through a different lens.

Practicing gratitude with the small things impacts everything else.  You begin to see the world through the lens of gratitude and you stop focusing so much on the negative side of the world.  It cascades throughout everything.

“Be the Change You Wish to See in the World.” – Mahatma Gandhi

If you are able to be grateful for a warm cup of coffee in the morning, it becomes easier to be grateful for the bus driver who delivers you safely to work.  Then you become grateful for your coworker who helped you with a project.  And when you get home from work, you become grateful that your children have the opportunities for a healthy meal and an education.

Once my husband was in the grocery store with our son and he told him smiles are contagious and then proceeded to test the theory.  Everyone they smiled at smiled back.  Gratitude is also contagious and the more we are grateful, the more those around us see the blessings in their lives too.

So how do we cultivate this same level of gratitude in our each and every day?  Here’s 5 strategies to build gratitude into your daily life:

  • Gratitude Journal
    • Begin or finish each day by writing in a journal, electronic or pen and paper, makes no difference.  Write down a minimum of three things you are grateful that day.  Big or small.  Gratitude for the ability to make your bed or gratitude that you survived a car accident – both build the habit of gratitude every day.

 

  • Set an Alarm
    • Use your smartphone to set 5 or more alarms throughout the day.  Each time the alarm goes off, pause for a minute to think of something you are grateful for in your life.  Again, big or small, gratitude is gratitude.
  • Post-It in Bathroom
    • On your bathroom mirror, steering wheel, or any common place, post a sticky note with the question, “What are you grateful for today?”  If you want to get fancy, you could stencil it or create some beautiful plaque, but be careful that it doesn’t become so decorative that it fades into the background.  You want this note to be noticeable so you look at it every day and answer the question.
  • Ritual
    • Create a ritual around a certain event in the day in which you give thanks.  For example, pausing before a meal to reflect on your blessings.  Our family regularly does a round-robin at the dinner table sharing our gratitude.
  • Gratitude Box
    • Buy a beautiful box or decorate a plain one.  Leave a stack of small pieces of paper and once a day write down a item of gratitude.  At a regular interval, weekly or monthly or so on, open the box and read what you have written down.

Incorporate one or more of these into each day and gratitude will begin to become habitual in your life.  And then that habit will influence those around you and bring more joy and blessing into your life.

Call to Action: Share in the comments what other ways you bring gratitude into your daily life?

 

How to Refill Your Energy Well When Life Gets Overwhelming

About 6 weeks ago, I returned home after 3 months away from my family.  While I enjoyed parts of my time alone, like always having a clean apartment and not having to pick up after anyone, being away from my husband and kids was difficult.  Upon my  I return, I wanted to express my gratitude for their support and to soak up and give back as much affection as I possibly could.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of others that needed my time and energy as well.  Work projects that were pending my return are coming at me fast and furious.  Friends want my company and I want to reconnect with them.  And I am trying to maintain some of the habits I established over the summer.  But the extra time that I had available in DC to focus on my needs has flown out the window.  As a result I am feeling incredibly overwhelmed.

Mental and physical energy are both taxed when we are juggling many priorities and dealing with life stress.  Managing energy is an important skill to master. If our energy becomes too depleted, we have diminished capacity to handle stress.  Compassion towards ourselves and other becomes a monumental effort.

The level of water  in a well depends on the inputs and withdrawals.  If a village is pulling water for a large variety of needs and there is no rainfall to refill it, then the well will run dry.  In times of drought, we become more conservative in our water withdrawals….shorter showers, quicker dishwashing, turning off the water while brushing teeth, and so on.  When rains come, conserving water becomes less important.

Think of energy the same way.  When life takes withdrawals, we need to find ways to refill the well.

Strategies to Refill the Well

Sleep – The most important and most effective way to replenish energy is a good nights sleep.  Many believe they can function on 5-6 hours or less, but research has shown that the average adult needs 8 hours a night.  Try it for a week and see how much more patience, love, happiness, and ability to focus that you possess.  You will likely find you need more sleep than you realize.

Healthy Eating – I am guilty of turning to junk food to handle stress, but I have learned that this only compounds stress because it puts nutritional stress on my body.  And it does nothing to refill my energy reserves.  Focusing on lots of fresh vegetables, whole grains and fruits, and plant-based proteins provides the body with the nutrients it needs to keep the fires burning strong.

Exercise – Exercise takes physical energy, but most of us use more mental energy throughout the day than we do physical energy.  Fatigue often comes because our brains are taxed.  A brisk walk, hard gym session, or good run clears the brain and leaves us with more energy afterwards than before.  Starting the day with a workout lays a foundation for a more positive day.  Exercising at lunch resets the clock for a better afternoon.  And exercise at the end of the day sheds the day’s stress allowing for a more relaxing evening.  Find the time of day that best serves you and make exercise a priority.

Hobbies – Spending time doing something you enjoy is critical to maintaining energy for the harder tasks in life.  Cultivating a hobby will provide you energy by shedding other life stress, bringing you joy, and allowing your mind to relax.  Try for at least 10 minutes a day doing something that simply brings you joy.  For me, this is reading a book, writing, or playing a good board game with my family.

Meditation – a 5-10 minute meditation session is a great way to clear the mind and reset your body.  Not only does it give you energy back, it plugs any energy leaks by helping shed negative thoughts and mental distractions. I find that a 10 minute meditation mid-afternoon is a good as a cup of coffee.

Introvert vs. Extrovert – Determining if you are introverted or extroverted is a great help in figuring out how you replenish your energy reserves.  Introverts are not always shy or anti-social.  Rather, introverts regain energy from alone time, while extroverts get energy from being with others. I am an introvert.  I love being with others, but find it exhausting.  I need time alone to replenish my energy.  If I don’t get any alone time, I find myself running on empty very quickly.  Because I know this, I will often eat lunch alone if I have meetings all day, or take a hot bath and read alone after the kids go to bed.

Implementing these strategies on a daily basis will keep your well of energy full.  A full well will keep you resilient in times of stress.  Identifying areas that are sucking the well dry is equally as important as refilling the energy well. If you find yourself running low, examine your daily habits and determine where you are leaking energy.  Are you not getting enough sleep?  Are you giving to much of yourself to others or not spending enough time with loved ones? Are you using your free time to binge watch Netflix at the expense of exercise and meditation?

Energy Sucks to Avoid

Worrying and Negative Self-Talk– A friend wisely told me once, “Worrying takes energy.  It is better to reserve that energy for positive things.”  Because our energy reserves are limited, it does not serve us to spend that energy on worrying or negative self-talk.  Rather, focus the energy you have on staying mindful.

Netflix binge – While it may seem relaxing to veg on the couch watching the latest House of Cards, a Netflix binge does not replenish your energy and it takes valuable time away from exercise, meditation, and sleep.  Rather than spending hours on end watching TV, take a nap or go to bed earlier, get exercise, or spend time talking with a loved one.

Caffeine, sugar and other artificial sources of energy – When we use caffeine, sugar, or other artificial sources of energy, we are robbing Peter to pay Paul.  A limited amount is sufficient, however if you find yourself relying on these to get through the day, examine your priorities and make sure you are getting enough sleep and investing in other energy replenishing strategies.  You will find these giving back much more and not asking  for repayment down the road.

You will quickly discover areas where you have a leak in your energy well.  Perhaps it is a slow leak which is easy to patch.  Maybe it is a large leak and will require more repair time.  In either situation, once you find the leak, you will find that implementing these strategies will refill that energy well.

The journey continues…..

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